While not specifically adult, this post deals with a bit of adult content. You have been warned. lol
Month: April 2009
Real v2.0
I got to meet not one, not two but three new buddies this weekend! Three more people that can vouch that I am real. heehee I know I’m an odd bird in that I actually like using social sites to meet people in person.
I met up with a local twitter buddy on Friday. Carlos and I met up at CPK downtown and had a very nice lunch talking and getting to know each other. To my surprise, he was very talkative which is always nice. Score 1
Sunday, I met up with Rich for lunch. He is in the Bay area now so we decided to meet up. I really liked how frank and genuine he seemed. I never realized he was native to the Bay area. He also gave me several compliments about my own blog. I tried very hard to take them in stride. I just suck at taking compliments. lol Score 2
Sunday night, I met up with a long time fellow blogger Glennalicious. [1]soon to be "former blogger" as he is ending his blog. *sigh* We met up at Daddies aka 440 Castro. I was immediately struck how much sexier in person he was. Grrr! (He already has a husband so I behaved. lol) Anyway, it was great finally getting to meet him. At one point this drunk guy tried to start some trouble. He went so far as to kick the pinball machine next to us. I knew 2 of the bartenders and promptly had him ejected before drama erupted.
It was late and we were both a little tired so we didn’t stay out long. Instead, we got together for breakfast this morning. We got to talk a lot more. He is very endearing and sweet. He is a total geek too, which I loved. lol Anyway, he is here for a conference so we probably won’t get to hang out again but it was fun finally meeting him. Score 3
All in all, it was a good weekend. Three new guys, three new positive experiences. Oh, I can also add them to the list of hundreds I’ve met thru blogging and social networking. See, they really do work!
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| ↑1 | soon to be "former blogger" as he is ending his blog. *sigh* |
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Real?
So in very uninteresting and completely mundane news, I joined realjock.com last week. I thought it might be fun to try and interact with other guys who enjoy working out.
So far, I’m not that impressed. Besides being an obvious hang out for those dealing with internalized homophobia and the ever emotionally stunted “straight acting” types, no one really seems to actually interact that much.
The site is designed relatively well and does have some good tips/guides for working out and building muscle though. The forum is decent as well. I guess its the best to be expected considering. I’ll give it a whirl for awhile and see what develops.
H8
My buddy Rob from roblog did a very cool video on the current state of political rights for the LGBT community.
Not only is it very well done but it also bears sharing. Feel free to link here if you like and want to spread the word.
Oh, and enjoy the movie. [1]I’ve been having trouble getting it to play in the browser, if anyone knows a better code version, let me know
Rob referred me to to a nifty plugin so ignore the “read more” link and click play or download.
Continue reading H8
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| ↑1 | I’ve been having trouble getting it to play in the browser, if anyone knows a better code version, let me know |
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Speedy
Officer kristaki and I went for a round-a-bout ride today. I met up at his place in Richmond. [1]I’ll skip the getting lost part We started out driving over to Fremont so he could put a deposit down on a rifle he has been wanting. The guys at the gun shop were hysterical and scary all at the same time. The crowning moment was watching this very white trash couple buying his/hers guns.
Here is kristaki looking all butch. Of course, we didn’t get a pic of me dropping my bike. lol I was only moderately embarrassed. As we are pulling into the parking space, I’m making a U-turn and made the classic mistake of going too slow and over-braking. I didn’t drop it so much as laid it down. kristaki got a kick out of seeing me do it, the bastard. I came away with only a minor scratch on the exhaust. [2]Those sliders finally came in handy On a side note, the leg workouts are paying off. It was nothing for me to lift the bike. I distinctly noticed how light it seemed.
Here I am at lunch looking very high in this pic. I won’t post the other pic of my funny face. It was not pretty. kristaki gave me a nice compliment, telling me how big my arms were getting. He was instantly forgiven for laughing at my previous little accident. heh heh. I’ll even sport for a nice gift when he gets married later this year.
This was only the 2nd time kristaki and I have ridden together since I started riding. We rode together once a few years ago back when I still had the GS-500. Since I had virtually no idea where we were going, I let him lead and was impressed at how aggressively cautious he was. He, like me, likes to be aggressive w/o being stupid and making rash decisions. We played follow the leader weaving thru traffic and I had a blast. There was one scary part. This cadi came flying onto the freeway at I can only guess 120 mph. We were doing about 85 mph at the time and this guy easily shot passed us while entering the freeway. I’m thinking to myself how absolutely crazy he is when I see him almost crash.
He is roughly about 3 blocks ahead of us when I see him swerve across three lanes of traffic. He lost control of the car and almost flipped it over. I shit you not, two of the wheels came off the pavement at one point. Luckily for him, he managed to regain control w/o crashing or killing anyone. kristaki and I had already moved to the far right lane to make sure we were well clear of his bullshit.
We are supposed to go on a more proper ride tomorrow. I’m hoping to take him down South Hwy 1.
Here I am striking a nice pose on the beast. I had the sudden urge to flex but decided against it. lol
It was a very nice day for a ride, if a tad warm. I overdressed and had to “de-layer” a bit while we were stopped getting gas.
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I finally broke down and got a Fastrak today too. I’m not sure why it took me so long to get one. Ok I do, say it with me…pro-cras-ti-nate. They’ve gone all digital so registering was a snap. The irony here is the toll booth I went thru today was broken. The guy waved me thru so I’m assuming all is good.
All in all, I was proud of myself today. kristaki has been riding quite a few years longer than me. The first time we rode together, I sort of felt like a total amateur. Today, I felt completely at ease while we were riding.
Wrong Turn
I went on a ride this past Saturday with the moto group. It went well except for a bit of confusion in the beginning. The group sponsor who also happened to plan the ride sort of pissed me off. He took off and left the group behind.
The ride was supposed to be a short but scenic one thru and around the City. There were about 8 or 9 of us to start. We started at Gayway [1]Safeway on Market and headed out for Ocean beach via Golden gate park. Now, in a group this large, it is easy to get caught up w/traffic, lights, stop signs, etc. We hadn’t even made it to the park before our host was completely out of sight. We stopped and texted him to see if he was pulled over somewhere waiting for us. We didn’t hear anything so headed for the first official stopping point, which was Ocean beach. We texted again from the beach and he was already over the Golden Gate bridge! I don’t care how good of a teacher or rider he is, that was just rude.
I kept my temper in check as I am still a bit of a n00b to the group. However, several other guys were obviously annoyed and two even abandoned the ride out of frustration. The remaining 6 of us ended up driving down Hwy 1 South. [2]One of my favorite rides The ride was a bit windy but the sun was out and it was beautiful driving down the coastline. We stopped for lunch at Alice’s [3]a local biker hotspot in Woodside before heading back. Round trip, it was about 150 miles.
Today was the first day I took the lead with the group. Normally, I stay to the rear as I don’t know all the routes that well yet. Anyway, I set a brisk pace w/o leaving anyone behind. The guys seemed to like the fact I was a little aggressive w/o being reckless.
On a side note, I sort of use the group rides to test how far along my skills have developed. I’m doing pretty good overall I think. I’m by no means an expert rider yet but I’m getting there. And even though the accident in August was in no way my fault, I still found myself being overly timid on curves. That seems to have passed thankfully. It might of had something to do with the fact this particular route is very familiar to me. The strip from Hwy 1 off the coast along Hwy 84 is a motorcyclist’s dream come true. It has a little bit of everything; open runs, windy roads, and a variety of curves.
WWMD v3.1
So this month’s What Would Moby Do is much less risqué. lol Actually, I find this question comes up a lot and is a doozy for newbies to the world of gay. It is also a two part-er, hence the 3.1.
Q: How do you meet people for friendship?
A: There are a variety of ways to meet new people. Bars, online, social gatherings, volunteering, etc can all be venues based on where you live. [1]Living in a remote or small town might mean having to trek to the closest big city.
Make an effort. Don’t show up somewhere and just expect others to magically engage you in conversation. You don’t have to be the life of the party, little nudges go a long way though. Be yourself, be honest. Let go of any unrealistic expectations of what or who you should or shouldn’t be. No one likes a phony and it often takes way too much effort to maintain such a facade.
Volunteering is a great way to not only meet people but you get to do a good deed. Find gay related charities or organizations in your area. It doesn’t have to be a lifetime commitment but it should be something you can relate to or enjoy. Play the “newbie” angle. Use it as an excuse to introduce yourself to others. You’d be surprised how many people will reach out and try to make you feel welcome.
Join a social group that involves hobbies or activities you enjoy. Same as volunteering, you get to meet new people and work that “newbie” status! lol This can go hand in hand w/online social sites. There are plenty to choose from. Chances are high any hobby you pick there will be a social site dedicated to it. If you take the online route, take the time to fill out your profiles with your info, likes, dislikes, goals, hobbies, etc. Like anything in life, you get out of it what you put into it. I keep a master word (text works just as well) file with all of my profile data in it. I can easily copy and paste it if I find myself joining a new or different site.
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| ↑1 | Living in a remote or small town might mean having to trek to the closest big city. |
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Rewind & Review
First, a big thank you to everyone for the kind words and support. I’m not upset or angry as much as disappointed. I liked him so of course it stung a little. Even though I think his method was a bit callous, I appreciate him saying up front he wasn’t interested. It saved both of us a lot of unnecessary drama later.
brettcajun made an interesting comment I feel bears review. His point about self-analysis was very astute, with one minor modification. This was not about what I did wrong. And while I did spend some time going over what transpired, I meant what I said and said what I meant. I regret nothing.
Not always being the most introspective person, it has taken me years to develop a strong sense of self and I have learned to value that. I am somewhat proud to say, now more than ever, I recognize in myself what it is I do and do not have to offer potential partners. I am learning to value that as well. On the other side of the coin, I also have a firm idea what is I want and need from someone else. And frankly, I am not willing to forgo that just to have a partner. [1]been there, done that, still have the t-shirt
So yeah, I’m a little miffed things didn’t go better but ultimately, it is for the best.
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| ↑1 | been there, done that, still have the t-shirt |
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Dear Moby
Well, I’m 3 for 3 in losses for dating this year. lol
I just got a “Dear Moby” letter. The irony is I hadn’t even finished the post about how we met. How’s that for a kick in the rubber pants?
Readers digest version: I’ve seen said guy around since I first moved here. We would always do a double take when we saw each other. However the timing always seemed to be off. Then there were the 3+ years I was with the ex. Fast forward a few more years, we start seeing each other around again.One particular time I stop to say hi, we exchange info but he had started dating someone.
Fast forward again to 2 weeks ago. He says hello to me at Starbucks and seems to want to connect. We have a coffee date last weekend. I got the impression things went really well. He even invited me to go line-dancing after the Easter holiday.
Today, I get a rather ambiguously worded email. [1]So very personal of him Basically, “its not you, its me” sort of shtick. While I might have been born at night, I was not born last night. I can clearly read between the lines. And considering how long its taken us to actually spend any length of time together, I’m not really upset. My real gripe is I wish he would have been more of a man about it. I’d respect him a whole lot more for having enough personal integrity to just tell me he didn’t think we were a good match.
Oh well, as Wanda (from In Living Color) would say, “gurl, I dun burned up another one!”
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Found Me
I just had to share. I was looking the search stats for my blog this month and I’m always amazed at how weird some of the searches turn out to be.
Apparently, the search phrase “steam room pimples” brought 10 people to my blog in the past month.
Who da thunk it?