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I’m not sure why some folks think they can’t disagree with me on my blog. I guess many carry over the failed experiences from other sites. Either way, I’ve had a few instances lately about whether a person felt comfortable leaving comments here so I feel compelled to speak up. One person even stopped me on the street to tell me their opinion after expressing a fear of posting on my blog.

I welcome comments, even if you disagree with me. My expectations are simple. Agree, disagree, or not care and comment as long as you are respectful. We can argue till we are both blue in the face. And we can do so w/o resorting to personal attacks.

For the most part, it is rarely a problem. I am not a news/media site and yes my rules are non-negotiable, but they are simple, fair, and most importantly, applied equally. I can count on one hand the number of non-spam comments I’ve deleted over the years. The only exception would be the crazie fundies who randomly descend with threats and condemnation. I’ve actually taken to forwarding death threats, however harmless in reality, to PD.1 The rest of the haters’ comments are deleted outright from the queue.
And truthfully, if they expressed an opinion w/o vitriol and name-calling, even their comments would get thru. Sadly, that is so rarely the case.

Lord knows, I am opinionated. And if you hope to change my mind on a subject, you need to back it up with facts and/or reason, not name-calling, faux indignation, etc. Unlike a certain blogger we know, I don’t cultivate the appearance of support here by selectively managing the comments that come thru. I encourage different pov’s as I can learn from them.

I’ve always gotten more emails than comments in relation to posts on my blog. I have friends who are private and just like to discuss their opinions with me behind the scenes. I also have “lurkers”, guys who read but never or rarely comment, who will email me from time to time as well. In all of these emails, I’ve never had one be rude or disrespectful. If you can do it in private, no reason you can’t do it publicly either.

So, if you’re in doubt about whether you should make a comment, now ya know. :)




  1. You’d be surprised how many of these idiots send emails thru their work accounts or work servers. LOL []

5 thoughts on “Comments

  1. Interesting post. Thanks for sharing it. As a relatively new blogger I have struggled a little with the whole ‘comment admin’ process. It’s helpful to hear the thoughts of an experienced blogger.

  2. I long ago set policy on comments to be the following:

    Post a comment that attacks me personally and I will edit such comment and put in my retort laden with ad hominem.

    Almost everything else will be allowed, sometimes with rebuttal when necessary.

  3. I only refuse posting comments by queens who seethe in drunken stupors against me because I have a personal preference against squishiness, losers, drunks, Scottish kilts, saying "hey, gurl", or "Really? Like Really?" I do not consider it censorship. It's more like… "Ewww… get off my page you twat!"

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