Ooops

I was supposed to meet up with a blog reader who is in town today and like an idiot I totally spaced it.  Good lord, I feel about as tall as an ant hill right now.  I hate when people are no-shows so I make an effort NOT to be a flake. 

Even worse, he sent me a very polite email afterwards. Not a hint of anger or resentment.  Nice, but I feel even more like a heel now.  Ugh! 

I can be very absent-minded about things, especially appointments.  To prevent myself from spacing, I usually write everything in my calendar. [1]Its the first page I visit on the computer in the morning to remind myself of things.  Naturally, I didn’t add my little get together today. The irony here is something has been nagging me at the back of my mind all day.  poof!  Now I know.

Anyway, I called him and he graciously agreed try again.  God love’em for putting up with me.

 

*Update* – we met up later in the evening and had a great time talking over dinner.

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↑1 Its the first page I visit on the computer in the morning to remind myself of things.

Be Gone With You

Well, its official.  The roomie moved out tonight.  I dropped him off at the airport around 09:30 pm.  For all his drama and annoying habits, I must admit I was a little teary-eyed.  We’ve known each other since I was in my early 20’s and our living together these last few years has made our friendship stronger.  I bitch and moan about him sometimes, but I really will miss him.

Regardless of his reasons, I wish him well.  I hope he finally finds somewhere where he feels like he belongs.  He hasn’t really liked SF for a couple years now. [1]Not to mention, that bitch has done gone clean thru all the men here. lol  I think our living arrangement is the only thing that kept him here so long. 

I found out last week he also split up with “Ty” again.  I guess Ty doesn’t want to move to NY.  I don’t really think either one of them was in it for the long haul, but that’s just my two cents.  They seem to be holding onto a fragile friendship at the moment.  Who knows how it will turn out. 

I’m still hoping the roomie’s previous ex will decide to move in.  As I mentioned, I know him somewhat and would be comfortable with him living here.  If he doesn’t I think I’ll hold off a few months to start looking.  Maybe an opportunity will present itself.  If not, I’ll have to start looking cold-turkey. [2]An option I’m not too keen on.  I have no desire to live with a complete stranger.  Time will tell I guess. 

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↑1 Not to mention, that bitch has done gone clean thru all the men here. lol
↑2 An option I’m not too keen on.  I have no desire to live with a complete stranger.

Stimulating…

Well, I’m doing my part to “stimulate” the economy.  I just received my new laptop today.  I decided to go with something a tad lighter this time.  I read some great reviews for the Lenovo Y650 series.  I’ve never owned a Lenovo. [1]IBM sold them their laptop division a few years back.  I can tell you this sucker is super slim & light.  I lost an inch of screen real estate but so far I’m not missing it! 

It also arrived a day early so I got a nice surprise this morning.  heh heh  I noticed right off how small the box was and was a bit confused thinking I must have ordered something else and just forgotten. 

I’m definitely impressed so far.  True to its description it has a very slim profile.  My laptop bag feels almost empty now when I’m carrying it. lol  Even better, I get a free upgrade to the full version of Windows 7 when it comes out later this year!  I think I mentioned I have the beta version on win7 on my old lappie right now.  I’ve gotten a little spoiled actually.  Win7 is all the things Vista should have been, IMHO.  I highly recommend upgrading when you can. 

Oh and I switched to a 64-bit OS.  The reason being the 64-bit version doesn’t have the memory cap on RAM like the 32-bit version does. 

The old Dell lappie is still in excellent shape.  I haven’t decided if I want to sell it or not.  TFA expressed an interest so we’ll see.  I’m currently transferring stuff from it to the new one.  I’ve had a NAS for years now and am getting better and better at using it as my primary storage.  Makes things a lot easier when transferring files. 

Anyway, so far I’m loving the new one.  Hopefully, it will stay that way. 

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↑1 IBM sold them their laptop division a few years back.

Forlorn

I had to call off the 2nd date with the Beefy guy from the gym today.  I wasn’t feeling too hot and didn’t think barfing on him would be attractive. 

It started last night.  My tummy was a little upset and making weird noises, even for me.  This morning I woke up feeling icky as all hell and tried to seduce the pain away by going back to sleep.  Noon roles around and I crawl from the crypt only feeling slightly less icky. 

The day wears on and I make the best of it.  I did make it out for a couple small errands an a Starbucks run.  Late afternoon finds me squatting over the porcelain god blowing chucks for Jesus.  Two hours later my low-grade fever breaks.  An hour after that I feel almost right as rain and hungry!  Fast forward one more hour and you find me inhaling a burrito, a taco, and leftover brussel sprouts. [1]I know, not the best combo

Currently, I’m propped up in bed with the laptop killing off my future children in my loins.  I’m gonna play F.E.A.R. 2 for a while and then call it a day. 

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Oh, I think I also offended a friend today.  He asked me a question and I didn’t really censure my response.  He got both barrels of my blunt opinion.  I didn’t mean to come off so crass.  Oh well, I’ll apologize tomorrow. 

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↑1 I know, not the best combo

Cheesy

I overheard a really cheesy pick up line leaving Starbucks today.  It was pretty obvious the guy used it at an attempt to be humorous.  The other guy obviously knew him as he laughed. 

Guy1: How have you been?

Guy 2: I am ok, good to see you.

Guy 1: You too.  Have I ever told you I have an itch that only you can scratch?

Guy 2: *laughs* 

It was funny but clearly not a really a good pick up line. lol  One of my favorites has always been:

Me: Do you have any cajun in ya?

You: No

Me: Do you want one?

What is one of your favorites?

scarf, scarf!

I’ve been picking up my lunches from this new health food to go place in the hood called Lilah Belle’s.  They are kind enough to give me a 30% discount thru work so I am saving money and eating much better.  I always seemed to end up ordering out from work.  The latter, while tasty, is not the healthiest and that shit adds up! 

Anyway, lately I can’t seem to stop eating.  Besides craving candy, my eating has increased quite a bit.  I usually eat about 4 meals a day. [1]Eating smaller meals more often is much healthier for you.  Recently, I’ve been going thru 5-6 meals a day.  To be fair, I consider large snacks a meal too.  My weight isn’t really fluctuating much so I’m assuming I’m just burning thru the calories. 

My ‘preggars’ post was in total jest but now I’m really wondering.  I assumed originally the drastic increase was from doing more cardio.  Overall, I don’t mind so much as long as my pant size doesn’t go up, even if it is a bit perplexing.

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↑1 Eating smaller meals more often is much healthier for you.

Goose Pimples

Yours truly, met someone new today!  I know, surprise! heh heh

While I don’t have a set type, I do have an affinity for guys that look rough on the outside and soft on the inside.  I ran into a guy at the gym today who I think fits that mold to a T.  lol  Actually, I ran into him in the steam room.  No, nothing happened.  Well, not exactly.  We broke the cardinal room of steam rooms, we talked! lol  I got the distinct pleasure of watching one old codger get all huffy and storm out.  But I digress…

I’ve seen him a few times before but being significantly more muscular than I am, I didn’t really think I’d be his type.  Apparently, I might be wrong.  He is about my height, muscled, hairy, several tattoos, bald head, and a very nice smile. [1]a nice smile gets me every time!  Yeah, that sounds hot and he was but the most significant (and endearing) thing about him was his frank and open demeanor, a trait I find very attractive in others.  And frankly, it is a bit hard to find in a city like SF.  I often sort of reign myself in when meeting someone new as I can be a little intense sometimes.  I didn’t really feel the need while we were chatting and he seemed just as at ease.  [2]Am I swooning? lol  Ok, ok, I thought he was hot too!

Never being the shy one, I gave him my card and he said he’d get in touch.  I know how that goes.  I’m always of the mind nothing ventured, nothing gained.  Well, true to his word, he emailed me and we are supposed to hang out this weekend.  

Wish me luck!?

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↑1 a nice smile gets me every time!
↑2 Am I swooning? lol  Ok, ok, I thought he was hot too!

Smile, You is on Camera

Here is my first video of the new year.  Its a bit longer (15megs) so the load time might be a little sluggish on a slower connection.  You can also download (right click and hit “save target or save link as” option).

I discovered if you are still using IE, the vid won’t load in the window. You can blame MS for being so lame as to not support industry standard code.

WWMD (What Would Moby Do?)

I figured out what was going on with the pics.  It was a plugin.  I didn’t tinker with it but I did upgrade it yesterday.  It is the same plugin that allows me to restrict certain posts to regsitered users.  After pulling my hair (yeah, my hair) out for a couple hours this morning, I found the offending code and snipped it.   Anyway, on to today’s post.  

Over the years, I seem to have developed a rather consistent following of lurkers. [1]people who read often but never comment publicly  I routinely get requests for advice, how-to, what-ifs, etc from this same group.  Being very open about my sexuality its often adult stuff but not always.  I figured why not start sharing?  heehee  Anonymous of course, don’t want to embarrass anyone.  I’ll try to do one every month but don’t get your knickers in a twist if I miss one.  Welcome to the very first WWMD!

Today’s question actually came in from several different readers so I figured it would be a good start. 

Q: How do you tell a guy you are not interested in him sexually? Or, how do you tell a guy you’ve been with once you aren’t interested in a repeat session.

A: I’m a big believer in honesty.  I find honesty to be the best policy in so many ways.  And while not always well-received at first, anyone worth their salt will respect you for it.  Plus, it does away with extended drama, uncomfortable exchanges later, and/or awkward public meetings.  You don’t have to be rude or ugly but you also don’t have to let the awkwardness or fear of alienation trick you into taking a less-honorable route. 

It may take a few attempts until you get the wording/phrasing down right as to not come off as rude.  You can even start out with telling the person you wanna be honest.  Don’t mislead the other person especially if they are “fishing”. [2]Using phrases meant to imply they want more, be it physical or emotional.

This allows you to avoid being “the bad guy” or having to put up with someone else’s issues.  Being respectfully honest puts any issues squarely back in the other persons lap.  I know that sounds a bit callous but very relevant unfortunately.  And let me be frank, anyone who gets angry or irritated at you for being honest probably isn’t worth your time anyway. 

The other side of the coin is you might make a friend.  I’ve actually made several friends thru “encounters” that either didn’t go as planned or didn’t happen at all.  One particular friend comes to mind, I truly would have regretted not getting to know him.  

 

So there you have it.  The first official WWMD!  How’d I do?

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↑1 people who read often but never comment publicly
↑2 Using phrases meant to imply they want more, be it physical or emotional.